I have dedicated like half of my ram to the forge installation JUST to get the bare minimum of the game not crashing when trying to launch. and now there's this issue.
I don't really know how anything works but here's my debug log:
and here's the latest log:
Update: It might be useful information to know that there's a little red X next to this server in the menu, when i hover over it it says "incompatible fml modded server" and then under that "server network message list is not compatible." Other forum posts on other sites ive seen address this issue saying the mod lists might not be compatible but i've double triple checked and they definitely are the exact same list of mods.