I thought I had the 64, but just in case I uninstalled and rand the offline since that stated it was 64.
so good news, I can now set the bat file to more memory so server runs without pausing, but I still see
[00:04:05] [server thread/WARN] [net.minecraft.server.MinecraftServer]: Can't keep up! Did the system time change, or is the server overloaded? Running 8615ms behind, skipping 172 tick(s)
I set the current bat at 4g, should I try upping it more? (standing around at night with mobs around task mgr says I'm using 6.7g / 16g