i added a mod that doesnt involve my client and it works now
C:\Users\matth\Desktop\forge server>java -Xmx1024M -Xms1024M -jar forge-1.12-14.21.1.2426-universal.jar nogui
[12:31:01] [main/INFO] [LaunchWrapper]: Loading tweak class name net.minecraftforge.fml.common.launcher.FMLServerTweaker
[12:31:01] [main/INFO] [LaunchWrapper]: Using primary tweak class name net.minecraftforge.fml.common.launcher.FMLServerTweaker
[12:31:01] [main/INFO] [LaunchWrapper]: Calling tweak class net.minecraftforge.fml.common.launcher.FMLServerTweaker
[12:31:01] [main/INFO] [FML]: Forge Mod Loader version 14.21.1.2426 for Minecraft 1.12 loading
[12:31:01] [main/INFO] [FML]: Java is Java HotSpot(TM) 64-Bit Server VM, version 1.8.0_144, running on Windows 10:amd64:10.0, installed at C:\Program Files\Java\jre1.8.0_144
[12:31:01] [main/INFO] [LaunchWrapper]: Loading tweak class name net.minecraftforge.fml.common.launcher.FMLInjectionAndSortingTweaker
[12:31:01] [main/INFO] [LaunchWrapper]: Loading tweak class name net.minecraftforge.fml.common.launcher.FMLDeobfTweaker
[12:31:01] [main/INFO] [LaunchWrapper]: Calling tweak class net.minecraftforge.fml.common.launcher.FMLInjectionAndSortingTweaker
[12:31:01] [main/INFO] [LaunchWrapper]: Calling tweak class net.minecraftforge.fml.common.launcher.FMLInjectionAndSortingTweaker
[12:31:01] [main/INFO] [LaunchWrapper]: Calling tweak class net.minecraftforge.fml.relauncher.CoreModManager$FMLPluginWrapper
[12:31:03] [main/INFO] [FML]: Found valid fingerprint for Minecraft Forge. Certificate fingerprint e3c3d50c7c986df74c645c0ac54639741c90a557
[12:31:03] [main/INFO] [LaunchWrapper]: Calling tweak class net.minecraftforge.fml.relauncher.CoreModManager$FMLPluginWrapper
[12:31:03] [main/INFO] [LaunchWrapper]: Calling tweak class net.minecraftforge.fml.common.launcher.FMLDeobfTweaker
[12:31:03] [main/INFO] [LaunchWrapper]: Loading tweak class name net.minecraftforge.fml.common.launcher.TerminalTweaker
[12:31:04] [main/INFO] [LaunchWrapper]: Calling tweak class net.minecraftforge.fml.common.launcher.TerminalTweaker
[12:31:04] [main/INFO] [LaunchWrapper]: Launching wrapped minecraft {net.minecraft.server.MinecraftServer}
[12:31:09] [Server thread/INFO]: Starting minecraft server version 1.12
[12:31:09] [Server thread/INFO] [FML]: MinecraftForge v14.21.1.2426 Initialized
[12:31:09] [Server thread/INFO] [FML]: Replaced 921 ore ingredients
[12:31:09] [Server thread/INFO] [FML]: Found 0 mods from the command line. Injecting into mod discoverer
[12:31:09] [Server thread/INFO] [FML]: Searching C:\Users\matth\Desktop\forge server\mods for mods
[12:31:10] [Server thread/WARN] [FML]: ****************************************
[12:31:10] [Server thread/WARN] [FML]: * The modid IronChest is not the same as it's lowercase version. Lowercasing is enforced in 1.11
[12:31:10] [Server thread/WARN] [FML]: * at net.minecraftforge.fml.common.FMLModContainer.sanityCheckModId(FMLModContainer.java:152)
[12:31:10] [Server thread/WARN] [FML]: * at net.minecraftforge.fml.common.FMLModContainer.<init>(FMLModContainer.java:133)
[12:31:10] [Server thread/WARN] [FML]: * at sun.reflect.NativeConstructorAccessorImpl.newInstance0(Native Method)
[12:31:10] [Server thread/WARN] [FML]: * at sun.reflect.NativeConstructorAccessorImpl.newInstance(Unknown Source)
[12:31:10] [Server thread/WARN] [FML]: * at sun.reflect.DelegatingConstructorAccessorImpl.newInstance(Unknown Source)
[12:31:10] [Server thread/WARN] [FML]: * at java.lang.reflect.Constructor.newInstance(Unknown Source)...
[12:31:10] [Server thread/WARN] [FML]: ****************************************
[12:31:10] [Server thread/ERROR] [FML]: Unable to construct net.minecraftforge.fml.common.Mod container
java.lang.reflect.InvocationTargetException: null
at sun.reflect.NativeConstructorAccessorImpl.newInstance0(Native Method) ~[?:1.8.0_144]
at sun.reflect.NativeConstructorAccessorImpl.newInstance(Unknown Source) ~[?:1.8.0_144]
at sun.reflect.DelegatingConstructorAccessorImpl.newInstance(Unknown Source) ~[?:1.8.0_144]
at java.lang.reflect.Constructor.newInstance(Unknown Source) ~[?:1.8.0_144]
at net.minecraftforge.fml.common.ModContainerFactory.build(ModContainerFactory.java:90) [ModContainerFactory.class:?]
at net.minecraftforge.fml.common.discovery.JarDiscoverer.discover(JarDiscoverer.java:92) [JarDiscoverer.class:?]
at net.minecraftforge.fml.common.discovery.ContainerType.findMods(ContainerType.java:47) [ContainerType.class:?]
at net.minecraftforge.fml.common.discovery.ModCandidate.explore(ModCandidate.java:78) [ModCandidate.class:?]
at net.minecraftforge.fml.common.discovery.ModDiscoverer.identifyMods(ModDiscoverer.java:138) [ModDiscoverer.class:?]
at net.minecraftforge.fml.common.Loader.identifyMods(Loader.java:403) [Loader.class:?]
at net.minecraftforge.fml.common.Loader.loadMods(Loader.java:543) [Loader.class:?]
at net.minecraftforge.fml.server.FMLServerHandler.beginServerLoading(FMLServerHandler.java:97) [FMLServerHandler.class:?]
at net.minecraftforge.fml.common.FMLCommonHandler.onServerStart(FMLCommonHandler.java:331) [FMLCommonHandler.class:?]
at net.minecraft.server.dedicated.DedicatedServer.func_71197_b(DedicatedServer.java:122) [nx.class:?]
at net.minecraft.server.MinecraftServer.run(MinecraftServer.java:483) [MinecraftServer.class:?]
at java.lang.Thread.run(Unknown Source) [?:1.8.0_144]
Caused by: java.lang.IllegalArgumentException: The modid IronChest is not the same as it's lowercase version. Lowercasing will be enforced in 1.11
at net.minecraftforge.fml.common.FMLModContainer.sanityCheckModId(FMLModContainer.java:153) ~[FMLModContainer.class:?]
at net.minecraftforge.fml.common.FMLModContainer.<init>(FMLModContainer.java:133) ~[FMLModContainer.class:?]
... 16 more
[12:31:10] [Server thread/INFO] [FML]: Forge Mod Loader has identified 4 mods to load
[12:31:10] [Server thread/WARN] [FML]: Missing English translation for FML: assets/fml/lang/en_us.lang
[12:31:10] [Server thread/INFO] [FML]: FML has found a non-mod file ironchest-1.8.9-6.0.125.770.jar in your mods directory. It will now be injected into your classpath. This could severe stability issues, it should be removed if possible.
[12:31:11] [Server thread/INFO] [FML]: Attempting connection with missing mods [minecraft, mcp, FML, forge] at CLIENT
[12:31:11] [Server thread/INFO] [FML]: Attempting connection with missing mods [minecraft, mcp, FML, forge] at SERVER
[12:31:11] [Server thread/INFO] [FML]: Processing ObjectHolder annotations
[12:31:11] [Server thread/INFO] [FML]: Found 1168 ObjectHolder annotations
[12:31:11] [Server thread/INFO] [FML]: Identifying ItemStackHolder annotations
[12:31:11] [Server thread/INFO] [FML]: Found 0 ItemStackHolder annotations
[12:31:12] [Server thread/INFO] [FML]: Configured a dormant chunk cache size of 0
[12:31:12] [Server thread/INFO] [FML]: Applying holder lookups
[12:31:12] [Server thread/INFO] [FML]: Holder lookups applied
[12:31:12] [Forge Version Check/INFO] [ForgeVersionCheck]: [forge] Starting version check at http://files.minecraftforge.net/maven/net/minecraftforge/forge/promotions_slim.json
[12:31:12] [Server thread/INFO] [FML]: Applying holder lookups
[12:31:12] [Server thread/INFO] [FML]: Holder lookups applied
[12:31:12] [Server thread/INFO] [FML]: Applying holder lookups
[12:31:12] [Server thread/INFO] [FML]: Holder lookups applied
[12:31:12] [Server thread/INFO] [FML]: Applying holder lookups
[12:31:12] [Server thread/INFO] [FML]: Holder lookups applied
[12:31:12] [Server thread/INFO] [FML]: Injecting itemstacks
[12:31:12] [Server thread/INFO] [FML]: Itemstack injection complete
[12:31:12] [Server thread/INFO]: Loading properties
[12:31:12] [Server thread/INFO]: Default game type: SURVIVAL
[12:31:12] [Server thread/INFO]: Generating keypair
[12:31:12] [Server thread/INFO]: Starting Minecraft server on *:25565
[12:31:12] [Server thread/INFO]: Using default channel type
[12:31:12] [Forge Version Check/INFO] [ForgeVersionCheck]: [forge] Found status: OUTDATED Target: 14.21.1.2428
[12:31:13] [Server thread/INFO] [FML]: Applying holder lookups
[12:31:13] [Server thread/INFO] [FML]: Holder lookups applied
[12:31:13] [Server thread/INFO] [FML]: Injecting itemstacks
[12:31:13] [Server thread/INFO] [FML]: Itemstack injection complete
[12:31:13] [Server thread/INFO] [FML]: Forge Mod Loader has successfully loaded 4 mods
[12:31:13] [Server thread/INFO]: Preparing level "world"
[12:31:13] [Server thread/INFO] [FML]: Injecting existing registry data into this server instance
[12:31:13] [Server thread/INFO] [FML]: Applying holder lookups
[12:31:13] [Server thread/INFO] [FML]: Holder lookups applied
[12:31:13] [Server thread/INFO] [FML]: Loading dimension 0 (world) (net.minecraft.server.dedicated.DedicatedServer@67cb0e72)
[12:31:14] [Server thread/INFO]: Loaded 488 advancements
[12:31:14] [Server thread/INFO] [FML]: Loading dimension 1 (world) (net.minecraft.server.dedicated.DedicatedServer@67cb0e72)
[12:31:14] [Server thread/INFO] [FML]: Loading dimension -1 (world) (net.minecraft.server.dedicated.DedicatedServer@67cb0e72)
[12:31:14] [Server thread/INFO]: Preparing start region for level 0
[12:31:15] [Server thread/INFO]: Preparing spawn area: 64%
[12:31:15] [Server thread/INFO]: Done (2,459s)! For help, type "help" or "?"