update, i did a lot of troubleshooting and found the conflicting mods, most of which were caused by Terrafirmacraft (ex: terrafirmacraft seemed to clash with farmersdelight?) i guess this should count as resolved, then?
https://mclo.gs/oftMTnI ^original instance with those mods and any attached to them disabled i made a new instance for testing with the mods removed instead of disabled and here's the results from that: https://mclo.gs/4TQRbRt