Minecraft crashing after tabbing out.

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After downloading forge for 1.8.9, every time I tab out, my ram usage starts to rapidly increase (2gb allocated 8gb overall) up until around 5gb which maxes out my ram and i freeze for a good 2 minutes. When it unfreezes, my game crashes and gives me error code: 0. Please help i just wanna use my mods ;-;